The First Step to Mental Wellness
When working with clients dealing with anxiety, sadness, grief, depression or anger, there is a common theme: They believe they are broken. It’s the one thing that a vast majority of those battling mental and emotional challenges deal with; however, it is often overlooked or unaddressed in most treatment environments.The treatment arsenal of many practitioners focuses on three areas: cause, medication and coping strategies. While it can be important to understand the origins of a condition, that knowledge alone is often insufficient to resolve most issues. Medications typically focus on symptom management and many people complain that they have negative side effects. Coping strategies are helpful, but like medication, they are often only managing the symptoms. These three areas remain important but miss one of the most essential facts about mental and emotional issues.
The most important thing people can do is to realize that they aren’t broken or stuck. While someone may need help to get out of their current cycle or need help with a life transition, most treatment is predicated on the theory that something is ‘wrong’ with the person. Beverly says most treatment is often based on the erroneous belief that sadness, anger, depression and anxiety are “bad” emotions that need to be treated or stopped. She says that treatment approach hinges on the theory of a broken person—that somehow that person’s brain or body is producing too much of the “bad” emotion.
The truth is that the person is not always broken. The sadness, anger, depression or anxiety they are experiencing probably had a very valid reason for being there in the first place.Approaching emotional management from an “unbroken” perspective allows people to work with their emotions in the same way as everyone else. Anger is an emotion that surfaces when something unfair happens to us. Sadness is an indication of a loss and the need to respond by mourning the loss. Anxiety is a protective response, and we must be made safe. Frustration is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. Depression is usually a sign that we need a new plan, something different.
The broken-person approach creates a situation in the sufferer’s mind that there is something wrong with them. They believe that they have no ability to manage the problem. They begin to hate that broken part. They try to isolate or suppress it. This creates a state of war within the person—the wise conscious mind against what they believe is the misguided subconscious mind and all its bad feelings.
The war mentality generally makes things much worse. Anger, anxiety, frustration, depression and sadness are protective responses; if we ignore them or debate their validity, then we will merely make the mind work that much harder to protect us. We aren’t protected if we’re ignoring the internal alarm system; in fact, the mind may sense that we’re actually in more danger, so it amps up the emotion.Hypnotists take a different approach to these emotional challenges. By helping clients understand the protective nature of the emotion, they work to end the internal war. Then they assist clients in creating new responses to trigger events. Those new responses can build new pathways within the brain.
Why Resolutions Don't Work
If your New Year Resolutions have already fallen by the wayside, you’re not alone. In fact, it is estimated that over 90% of New Year’s resolutions fail - many before the calendar even turns to February. But a local hypnotist and expert on the subconscious says it isn’t too late if you’re trying to turn things in a different direction in 2016. “We should resolve to improve ourselves and our lives every day of the year,” said Randy Hampton, co-owner of Hawaii Hypnosis Center. “If you missed out on something to start the year, don’t despair - there are still more than 300 brand new days left in the year.”
Hampton, one of Hawaii’s leading authorities on the subconscious mind, recommends that people stick to the things they want to achieve. He reminds his clients that failure isn’t a “thing,” it’s just a word too often attached to the attempts that occur right before success.“You can’t succeed without starting the change,” Hampton explains. “The problem is that too many people are TRYING to change instead of just changing. The word ‘try’ leaves too much room for failure.”
When you can’t sleep, your troubles just seem to get bigger. If you’re stressed in your life, your body needs sleep to recover. If you’ve got pain, your body needs sleep to heal. If you’re under pressure, your brain needs sleep to learn, recover, and make good decisions. There isn’t much worse for you than not being able to sleep. When things are rushed or not going well in your life, a lack of sleep generally makes things worse. There are dozens (if not hundreds) of reasons why people can’t sleep. Electronics, alcohol, caffeine, nicotine, and napping are all things that could be limiting your ability to get some rest. More often though, it is the racing thoughts that keep up at night. People who lay in bed - wide awake - are often replaying the day’s events or worrying about tomorrow’s events. Insomnia, sleeplessness and a mind that won't shut off are all things that hypnosis can help with. Find out what is keeping you up at night.
Hawaii Hypnosis Center sees many weight loss clients and we’re excited to help those clients achieve long-lasting, life-changing results through our systematic approach. We work with our clients to change eating patterns and change their relationship with food so they can lose weight. From working with thousands of clients, we’ve come to the conclusion that being overweight is not about the food but more often about the feelings and emotions that trigger you to eat or snack when you are not hungry. Food becomes a distractor for feelings and emotions that people don’t like or don’t know how else to satisfy.
Identify feelings and emotions and bring them to the surface so that you can neutralize and eliminate them. Once that happens, food retakes its rightful role as a fuel for your body, which results in weight loss and clients that start to feel good about themselves again and find the motivation to work out. The journey to a healthier lifestyle gains momentum with healthy eating and exercise habits. No more procrastination!
If you’re a person who is struggling with anxiety, it can be uncomfortable to do everyday things. Going to the store, talking to a new client, or attending a school or church function can be exhausting. Seemingly ‘normal’ events can result in rapid heartbeat, increased sweating, and enough adrenaline to make a person want to run away from the perceived danger. If you’re anxious, you may find yourself wishing other people understood what was going on inside of you during these kinds of events. Over time you may have grown to dislike phrases such as “calm down,” “relax,” or “there’s nothing to worry about,” because they have been thrown at you endlessly by well-meaning friends or family members. Rationally and consciously, you recognize that it should be that simple - but it isn’t. The person who is dealing with anxiety is doing battle with an internal subconscious system that is out of the reach of most people’s soothing admonitions.
Utilizing a skilled hypnotist can allow an anxious person to discover the root of the anxious feelings - where they originate - and help reassess those origins. In addition, hypnosis provides powerful calming tools and techniques that can make sure anyone stays calm in virtually any situation.