Getting Our Own Mind to Work as a Team -- Aligning Conscious and Subconscious Desires
It’s enough to make one crazy. We know we should do something—like work out, eat better, give the dog a bath, finish that work project, or call our mom—but we can’t seem to get it done. We’re back on the couch feeling unmotivated and frustrated.Everybody seems to have a goal. There’s something out there that people want to accomplish. For some, the goal is to be healthier or get that dream job. Others may be hoping to be more organized or save more for retirement. Everybody seems to have something that they are wishing to achieve, but very few seem to be reaching their goal. Just setting a goal and “trying to get there,” falls short for most people. If we want to achieve something, we’ve got to make sure that our entire mind is onboard with the plan.
The human mind has both a conscious and a subconscious element. The conscious mind tends to be that intelligent, goal-setting, analytical part that knows exactly where we want to end up. The subconscious mind is the part that wants to make life easy, help us be comfortable, protect us and keep us safe. To achieve a goal, both parts have to be in agreement that the goal is of the highest benefit. If there’s conflict, the subconscious will most likely win. Our protective, or comfort, instinct will find a way to overcome that hard-thinking, willpower-fueled, gotta-get-there drive that our conscious mind can build.
“You can want something desperately and still be unable to achieve the vision if your protective subconscious doesn’t agree with the perceived suffering you will experience,” explains Beverly Craddock, a master hypnotist at Hawaii Hypnosis Center, in Honolulu. “You can have the top-level gym membership, the trendiest workout clothes and the gym bag next to the door, but if your subconscious mind wants to rest, you’ll too often find yourself on the couch.”
While willpower can overcome some resistance, long-term habit-forming success comes more quickly when we can identify and resolve the subconscious resistance. “You can be consciously motivated to eat better but find yourself still going for the cookies if your subconscious finds comfort in sweets,” Beverly explains. “Even people who really desire a goal can be sidetracked or completely derailed by outdated thoughts or feelings.”
For business professionals that lead teams, the concept of team building, or teamwork, can often be made more complicated by their own subconscious desires and those of team members. The old adage, “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink” is truly about this challenge. Even when guiding the project, the company or the healthy outcome, we have to convince the horse that it is thirsty and help it understand that water is scarce.
Team environments require an understanding of not only team dynamics but personal dynamics; this requires an understanding of both conscious and subconscious motivation. “Achieving the goal is about helping team members have both intrinsic and extrinsic motivation,” Beverly says. “While getting a salary or wanting to look better is a great extrinsic—or external—motivator, people also have to be inwardly motivated by a desire to succeed that overcomes the desire to be comfortable, drink more, study less or watch 18 straight hours of Orange Is the New Black.”
The subconscious mind is designed to guide us toward comfort and safety, so it often doesn’t understand that comfort isn’t always best for us as we try to achieve health. Sure, it’s better in the long run to be healthy, but the subconscious lacks the analytical ability to see beyond what it already knows from experience. The experiences we’ve had often inform us that cookies taste good and broccoli tastes bad, and sleep is awesome and exercise hurts.
So, how can an individual or a team leader overcome being dragged down by an unmotivated subconscious? Beverly says there are two key elements: “First, you’ve got to show the subconscious the benefit by making the end result visible. You have to visualize yourself healthy and you have to show the team members what success looks like. Second, you’ve got to make sure that the subconscious doesn’t become distracted along the way. Success comes from constantly seeing the end result in a believable and achievable series of steps.”She reminds us that it isn’t just having the steps laid out consciously for the individual or the team but rather being able to visualize those steps being taken and being able to visualize being successful.
he classic Charles Dickens story A Christmas Carol tells the tale of Ebenezer Scrooge and his quest for greater wealth. While the story is fiction, its publication in 1843 shows that people’s quest for wealth above all else has been messing us up for centuries.Wealth may even be more elusive in our modern world, a place where being a millionaire is not sufficient amongst the billionaires. These days, we can instantly follow the exploits of heiresses of the Kardashian and Hilton clans. We can view Hollywood blockbuster movies about the rise of Apple’s Steve Jobs or Facebook’s Mark Zuckerberg. In recent months, maybe readers even turned on local news to hear about the arrival at Aloha Tower of a “mega yacht” owned by Oracle founder Larry Ellison or Russian billionaire Andrei Melnichenko. Everywhere people turn in 2015, we are bombarded by images of wealth.
“The lightning speed of media and marketing shows regular images of abundance,” says Beverly Craddock, master hypnotist at Hawaii Hypnosis Center, in Honolulu. “However, our brains too often bring those images inside our mind with attached feelings of desire, insufficiency, jealousy, failure or unworthiness.”Many people blame the media or social media for glamorizing wealth, but the desire for riches is as old as human history. Ancient Romans were in awe of the wealthy trappings of the Caesars. Wealth, it could be said, is as old as theft, and theft is as old as humans. From the biblical story of Cain and Able to the Hawaiian legends of mischievous Menehune, the taking of things from others stems from the desire to have shiny objects that others possess. And while the acquisition of wealth is not inherently theft, the desire for wealth is certainly as old as theft itself. The fact is humans generally want more.
While the “desire to acquire” is somehow engrained in humans, it can be problematic when it interferes with life, happiness, peace and balance.
“When we want ‘things’ more than we want relationships, depth and meaning, we are on an endless treadmill,” Beverly explains. “Many people seek hypnosis for wealth acquisition, but the successful work in abundance hypnosis is more about balancing both sides of the mind to allow a person to achieve a healthy relationship with money.”From the hypnotist’s perspective, having a balanced view of how money exists in someone’s life will draw more money to that person than any other method.
“When you can consciously and subconsciously have a rhythm and flow to your relationship with money, there is a lot less pressure on acquiring wealth,” Beverly points out. “It isn’t the negative thoughts that disrupt the flow of wealth but rather the internal disagreement about wealth’s role and purpose in our life.” Beverly explains that success and wealth come more easily when a person is working to achieve them for a higher purpose. “Steve Jobs didn’t become wealthy or successful because he wanted to be wealthy or successful,” Beverly concludes. “He became those things in the course of achieving his purpose of building a more intelligent and intuitive computer. The same is true for Warren Buffet, who began investing as a child, not because he wanted to one day be the richest man in the world, but because he knew the value of saving and enjoyed the skill of investing.”
While the rest of us might have missed the computer revolution, the dot-com revolution, the real estate bubble, and the California Gold Rush of 1848, there are always new ways for someone to find not just wealth but a meaningful wealth.
To find true wealth, Beverly offers three tips:
1 Work your passion, not your wallet. Build something, create something or make something better.
2 Have a healthy relationship with wealth by understanding that the richest person in the world is the person that knows that he/she already has everything he/she needs. Instead of running on the treadmill of needing more, changing this perspective takes the energy from worry and puts the mind’s energy into one’s work.
3 Do things because you CAN—not because you HAVE TO. Work, earn and live from your abilities and things will flow more easily. Feeling the pressure of money is the number one thing that will keep an individual from ever feeling the texture of money.